Full disclosure...this is supposed to be a Try.I.Y. post involving a certain craft project. And maybe I was supposed to post it last week and failed to...I certainly would never admit to such a thing...and maybe I got home for the second week in a row too late to get a photo of said project before the sun went down (damn winter!)...never mind the fact that there was an entire week in between when I could've done it. But all those days I was catching up on things I'd let slip through the cracks on the day before that, like an endless Lucy-and-Ethel-at-the-chocolate-factory skit.
Point is. I get so frazzled! So in light of a recent resolution I promised to myself, I thought I'd focus this post instead on that frazzled feeling...focus on letting it go, that is. We all set these rules and goals and timelines on ourselves, in every area of our lives. I love working on this blog, and Marisa and I are super dedicated to getting posts up 6 days a week, but it can feel like a too-fast-treadmill sometimes. When one of us gets stressed about falling a bit behind, the other one often offers the reminder, "wait, this is supposed to be fun!" It's a simple sentiment, but a hard thing to remind yourself in the midst of emotional overload. So let this post be a reminder to us all to let go of that frazzled feeling.
This isn't to say we should shirk all responsibilities. We can't control how quickly things come down the line sometimes, but we can choose not to succumb to the wacky way we act when we fall behind. I find that frazzled feelings beget more frazzled feelings...once I let myself stress about one thing, I get frantic about everything. My posture changes, I complain about having too much to do, I try to cut corners, and I end up a cranky mess. My resolution to myself is to try my best, of course, but to embrace the times I fall short, throw my shoulders back, take a deep breath, and march on. This applies to a lot more than blog posts, of course. I think my biggest lesson in learning to live through the frazzle comes from being a mom. Motherhood is filled with moments of overload - be that overwhelming emotions or, quite literally, too many things to carry and not enough hands. I found this woman's post about simplifying bath time so obvious and subtle and yet totally groundbreaking.
And then there was the TED Talk about power poses. Amy Cuddy's presentation got a lot of press last year, but I wanted to link to it yet again because I find myself referring to it a lot. On mornings when I feel like I am too tired to possibly face a full day of work, I like to remind myself to take a pause and stand up straight - I've even taken to yelling "power pose!" and making Vivi throw her arms up in the air with me. I never do it for the full two minutes, because, c'mon, I'm totally late and tired and frazzled and busy and have waaaay too much to do. But one of these days maybe I'll get there....
(Here's a printable version of the above graphic. If you'd like to print it out and tack it above your desk to remind yourself to chill out, I recommend something like this matte paper from Epson).